If you take every single person on earth and look at their behavior, no matter how good of a person they are, you will see mistakes. You will see bad behavior, bad habits and selfishness at times. In most people, you will see good behavior as well. My point is, whoever you are married to right now, that you chose to give your lifetime commitment to, they have good and bad in them. Why did you decide to marry that person? What made you fall in love with them? Always keep that in the front of your mind and heart.
Be grateful for all the good things your spouse does for you and your kids and your family. If your wife always does so much without you even having to ask, make sure you tell her how appreciative you are! Same for your husband who works so hard, wants to protect you and be a good Dad, he needs to see that you are appreciative too. All of us will do things because we love someone, but it makes it so much more rewarding when our spouse is grateful for what we love to do for them anyway.
We all have made mistakes and will also make them in the future. I believe that if you focus only on the bad or annoying things your spouse does, then you will not last too long. But, If you can remember that you are not perfect and may do some things that your spouse may not love or like also, then it truly becomes difficult for you to be looking down at your spouse as if you don't do anything wrong.
When I say to focus on the good, I do not mean that you should never bring up issues that arise with behavior or actions you don't agree with. Of course, that is where good communication comes in and that is a different subject I'll bring up in our next blog post and video.
Understanding that you and your spouse are just 2 adults that met, fell in love and are building a solid, family foundation and legacy together, makes your marriage so much more valuable. Appreciate your spouse and be grateful for every thing they do. Give 100% of your heart to one another without reservation and that will build trust for one another over time. Jump in with all you've got from day 1. No reservations. When you love God and you know that God brought you both together, then you can trust God and your spouse. Focus on the good. Focus on what made you fall in love in the first place.
Eric and I have been a blended family for over 22 years now but more importantly, we are an American family. Blended or not, we love each other and value our time together. We both love our kids, grandkids and family. We work hard every day, pay the bills, go to church, have goals and dreams and just do life the best way we can. We are always growing spiritually, striving to be closer to God and learn from our mistakes. We know God gave us a purpose on this earth and we do it together with patience, support and prayer.
Isn't that what life is about? Finding what your calling is and who you will live that life with? We all have a valuable purpose to be alive and that is why we are here. Not everyone finds that purpose right away. Many of us struggle, fall, drift and get lost until we figure it out! That is why we have hope and a reason to live. That is why America was built over 200 years ago. The American family is the foundation to society that grows and thrives.
Our founding fathers were not perfect but the people who wrote our constitution wanted freedom. They did not want to live under a King who ruled their lives. They wanted freedom to live our God given lives to pray, raise our families with faith and to know God's word, the Bible. Our country was built for all people to have freedom, even if they were not Christians or Jewish. Freedom to build a business and freedom to do what we were called to do.
As we move forward here with our blog and videos, we will continue to speak about our blended family issues but also share the goodness of being married as husband and wife here is the United States of America. We hope you will be inspired by what we share and believe.
