If you take every single person on earth and look at their behavior, no matter how good of a person they are, you will see mistakes. You will see bad behavior, bad habits and selfishness at times. In most people, you will see good behavior as well. My point is, whoever you are married to right now, that you chose to give your lifetime commitment to, they have good and bad in them. Why did you decide to marry that person? What made you fall in love with them? Always keep that in the front of your mind and heart.
Be grateful for all the good things your spouse does for you and your kids and your family. If your wife always does so much without you even having to ask, make sure you tell her how appreciative you are! Same for your husband who works so hard, wants to protect you and be a good Dad, he needs to see that you are appreciative too. All of us will do things because we love someone, but it makes it so much more rewarding when our spouse is grateful for what we love to do for them anyway.
We all have made mistakes and will also make them in the future. I believe that if you focus only on the bad or annoying things your spouse does, then you will not last too long. But, If you can remember that you are not perfect and may do some things that your spouse may not love or like also, then it truly becomes difficult for you to be looking down at your spouse as if you don't do anything wrong.
When I say to focus on the good, I do not mean that you should never bring up issues that arise with behavior or actions you don't agree with. Of course, that is where good communication comes in and that is a different subject I'll bring up in our next blog post and video.
Understanding that you and your spouse are just 2 adults that met, fell in love and are building a solid, family foundation and legacy together, makes your marriage so much more valuable. Appreciate your spouse and be grateful for every thing they do. Give 100% of your heart to one another without reservation and that will build trust for one another over time. Jump in with all you've got from day 1. No reservations. When you love God and you know that God brought you both together, then you can trust God and your spouse. Focus on the good. Focus on what made you fall in love in the first place.
