In one of my recent videos, I spoke about feeling distant with your spouse.  One of the reasons is due to your communication, or lack there of.  Actually, not speaking is a form of communication, and not a very fruitful one.  Sometimes, out of frustration or hurt, you back away from your spouse.  If that is happening, you definitely want to turn that around. Not sure how?  Well, I always remind myself why I love him.  No spouse is perfect but we should remind ourselves of the positive traits they have and choose to encourage and support them on a daily basis.

When I wake up in the morning, the first thing I do after I turn on my coffee maker, is begin praying.  I thank God for all of His blessings. I thank God for my husband and family, our health, our income, our home, and all the opportunities that will come our way during the day for us to bless another in some way.  Being full of gratitude really does make a difference.  Focusing on the good has always been my goal and it definitely helps my mental and emotional awareness. 

If we have a disagreement about something, we both try to discuss why we have different views on that situation.  I first try to see things from his perspective and not just insist that my way or view is better.  Trying to understand each other takes effort.  Take a breath and listen while they are speaking.  Look at their heart. Communicating each other’s true feelings about something and understanding how each other got to that view, even if we don’t fully agree is so important for your relationship.  Giving in and not being stubborn about everything will open up your relationship to more deep conversation which builds trust over time.  Learn to give and not always take. Learning to receive from your spouse is also a good thing.   Growing your relationship for a lifetime requires commitment and true love.