Are you having issues in your marriage and not knowing how to fix it? Are you ready to give up? Let me give you some tips that will help you...
First, answer this question. Why did you decide to marry your spouse? What drew you to them? Did you see yourself growing more in love for one another for the rest of your life? If not, then maybe you both need to rethink and start fresh with your motivation for marriage. If your answer is yet, then pay attention...
God said in Genesis 2:24 and Matthew 19:5 that man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall be one flesh.
What is One flesh? You both are a TEAM, as husband and wife. You and your spouse have different qualities that merge together so you can build a successful family and live in harmony. Your team environment really means that you work together to build your family and life. You love one another and encourage one another. You comfort and support each other in all things. You are NOT 2 separate people who just live different dreams and outcomes. You are best friends who listen to each other, care about one another's ups and downs and want the very best for them. You are not living 2 separate lives in one house with occasional love making to fulfill your desires and then move on to your separate lives again. You are one flesh.
God designed marriage to be this way because He knew that we would be raising our kids and our family with future grandkids who become our next generational family.
That's why God said in Ephesians 5:22-25 Wives, submit to your husbands, as to the Lord. The husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church and He is the savior of the body. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her.
1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them in understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
So, we need to honor each other. Respect each other and care about one another's needs. Be grateful toward your spouse when they do something for you. Be appreciative of their support and care for your needs. Be a good listener and understand their hurts and concerns, whatever those may be. Be humble and apologize when you are wrong. Period. True love will want to do this. Be present when they are talking to you. You are ONE flesh. You are a TEAM that needs to stick together during the storms of life and not pull away. Forgive each other and be gracious.
Pray for one another. Pray together. Put God first and I promise, you will want to love your spouse more. Loving God enables you to see your own shortcomings and desire to do better in all parts of your life.
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